
Since then I learned how to live my life in a better way to minimize my anxiety and center myself. One interesting thing that evolved since an early age is my appreciation for music. I listen to music everyday and often for long periods of time. In a way I feel like music channel my feelings and makes me feel more at peace inside. It keeps my feelings and anxiety at bay a lot of the time and makes me feel content even when I should be stressed. I currently live in a big metropolitan area and commute to work everyday. The morning rush in the subway is one of the worst environments possible for me as an HSP INFJ. Tons of people, no private space, unbearable noise and moving crowds. Without headphones and music I’m not sure I would be able to work in the city like I do. I think part why this works so well is the perceiving function of introverted intuition that is always collecting data for the subconscious. Music channels my feelings and subconscious and calms me down. Hence why the opposite of noise that you can not control gives me anxiety. The irony with INFJs is that we are so aware of the motives and feelings of people around us, and can channel and direct their feelings, but we cannot control or understand our own.
In order to work properly and feel well on a daily basis I’ve learned the hard way how important it is to get enough sleep. Without sleep I’m not even half the person I normally am and my intuition will drain me instantly with analyzing everything even though my mind is to tired to keep up. When I was younger I noticed this effected in how I could not keep up with partying like my friends without suffering mentally, when not getting proper rest. They could go on every night the whole weekend, but I could not function good socially after just one night without proper sleep while you are intoxicated. To feel at my best I usually need to get around 8 hours of sleep. 7 is doable but don’t really notice an improvement in mood and 6 is absolute minimum. There is a big difference in waking up by myself and by the alarm also. Waking up from the alarm makes me feel tired for at least 2 hours after getting up, while waking up by myself makes me feel fresh within half an hour. I read somewhere about this effect when it comes to introverts versus extroverts. Extroverts need less time in the morning to get up and feel fresh then what introverts do.
I have also been reading some interesting articles about the different halves of the brain, right and left and what they are each used for. Here are some nice links to dig into:
INFJ Left-brainers? Is there such a thing?
Right brained, left brained test
Right brained, left brained image test (Pretty cool. If I concentrate enough on this image I can switch the spinning direction. Usually she spins clockwise for me, right brained.)
http://www.perthnow.com.au/entertainment/competitions/left-brain-vs-right-brain/story-e6frg46u-1111114517613
Here is a great book about being right brained:
A Whole New Mind: Why Right-Brainers Will Rule the Future
Left side of the brain is used for logic, language, words etc and the right side of the brain is used for intuition, abstract thinking and feeling. INFJ is one of the few personalities that are well balanced and actually use both sides of the brain while some personality types primarily use one. From what I can read on the above forum posts about INFJ left brainers, it seems we are mostly balanced. I took the test and my results divert a bit from the rest with 40% left and 60% right brained, I had the highest right brained score I could see when comparing myself to the other INFJs on the forum. This is interesting to me considering I have an artistic profession and a heavy user of my intuition and abstract thinking. Maybe this is a state that have developed over time since I depend on right brained thinking daily in my life. This must also indicate even more why I am such a feeler and have issues in life when it comes to anxiety and depression. I get the feeling that I have a bit more issues from being to right brained then the average INFJs has, but still I prefer operating this way since it has given me some unusual talents. Einstein said that the intuitive mind is a sacred gift and I could not agree any more. The problem is of course that we live in a society that favors the rational mind.
Thanks for the insight. I feel I’m not alone anymore. Now to dig myself out of the hole I’m in will be a greater challenge. No family, completely isolated…but great insight. God Bless.
Wow Alex, I think you are my twin that you didn’t know you had. Just sayin’
Hey Sue, thanks for reading and happy to hear that :)
This was great to read. For some reason just hearing an account of infj anxiety that is so familiar to my own experience helps me calm down. Maybe there is a kind of validation gained from reading such close accounts from other people. If that’s the case, I think it says a lot about the nature of infj anxiety – there is a lot of self blame that generates from the anxious feelings and there is a deep fear of the experience of anxiety itself.
I’ve been practicing trying to identify that thread of fear amongst the whole jumble of emotions that come to me when I experience my anxiety.
Thanks again for the post. It was really helpful.
Thanks for your comment, I really appreciate it. I feel the same, reading other INFJs accounts grounds me and makes me feel like I’m not actually losing my mind :P I think INFJs that haven’t had a lot of people to relate to emotionally in life benefits from this a lot, at least judging from my own experience.