I read an interesting article the other day about extroverted feeling and it sparked some thoughts in my mind concerning the different cognitive processes. Apparently extroverted feeling is more common among men then women, and introverted feeling more common among women. This lines up well with some of the stereotyping we have in todays society. I’m a fan of tattoos and acquired quite a few myself along the years. After researching a bit, it seems like tattoos is most common with extroverted feelers as a means of expression and an extension of themselves into the outside world. Now days it’s becoming more and more common and accepted to have tattoos and show them in public and at work, especially for men. When it comes to women we still have some kind of strange judgments that women should not have or show tattoos in public like men do. One might wonder if you could connect this to women having a higher amount of introverted feelers that are more likely to see tattoos in a different light then extroverted feelers. Food for thought at least.
Tattoos is yet another thing in my life that lines up perfectly with my personality and cognitive processes of being an INFJ. I’ve also discovered more patterns in me that feels true to being an INFJ and an idealistic personality. When it comes to love, attraction and friendships, I’ve realized that my taste in people often turns out to be people that stand out in the crowd, just as I see myself. With that I mean not in an physical attraction sense but that they have something that makes them special, both in positive or even negative ways. I feel I gravitate towards people that are unique and have some depth in their character. Maybe it is because I am this myself, a complex person, and superficial people bore and don’t interest me. When I think of my friends and people I at some point felt was true friends, I can see that there was always something that separated them from the rest. Some talent, trait or unusual behavior that made me feel like I wanted to get to know them more.
As an INFJ I am among few people that can see past peoples flaws and see them for who they really are and their potential. I noticed that people that have issues socially gravitate towards me because they do not have to pretend who they are when they are with me. They will be seen and accepted for who they really are and when you think about it, isn’t that what we all INFJs wants to be accepted for in the end as well. We are extroverted feelers projecting ourselves and our feelings out into the world. Considering the values we hold on the inside maybe this is one of the greatest strengths with INFJ types.