Comments on: INFJ Traits: The Curse of Understanding

By: shez

shez — Sun, 02 Apr 2017 00:29:53 +0000

Irrespective of any English errors, I grasped the messages. Hopefully other readers did too. And well said, thank you. I think King Solomon was an INFJ – if you recall the story about the 2 women arguing over a baby….

By: Anna

Anna — Thu, 26 May 2016 18:37:07 +0000

Hi Amanda, I’ve noticed the same as you did and if I were Alex wouldn’t take it the wrong way. At the same time and as a non-native English speaker let me point out that instead of saying: ” its up to you if you would like the extra help.”, you should have said: “it is up to you…..or: “it’s up to you…”
take care
Anna
PS: thanks Alex for your wonderful articles.

By: S.

S. — Mon, 11 Jan 2016 19:05:57 +0000

The world is wicked and follows no commandments. That is the problem. SO called “Americans” swear on the Bible don’t believe in it. In God we trust is written on the back of the bill but everyday new dogmas are created to explain him away. A lot hypocrisy is going on in the world. That is the real problem.

By: Azeezat

Azeezat — Mon, 03 Nov 2014 12:58:01 +0000

Hello.

I think you said what you needed to say in as nice a manner as possible. I do hope the author takes you up on your offer. Occasionally it can be distracting to notice these things that could be better worded.

Take care, and have a nice day.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Mon, 15 Sep 2014 17:42:16 +0000

Ok, first of all being an INFJ I have to apologize for what I am about to type, but at the same time I can’t not communicate this pet peeve I have. I am really enjoying these articles/blogs, I feel that there is a lot of relatable material for myself and for other’s in my life, however, as an English teacher, I can’t help but notice the need for editing and revising before it is “published”. Not sure I know what the reason is for this but I am offering my services of composition for free to fix the errors before people read it. Yes, one reason is because I am a perfectionist and two I know you have a lot of great points that might be misconstrued and not communicated completely for others to pick up on. Just my thoughts…its up to you if you would like the extra help.

Thank you,
Amanda

By: Alex

Alex — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 03:33:19 +0000

That is because most people can’t imagine themselves in somebody else’s shoes. I used to not give people second chances either, but I’m better at it now. It is hard though sometimes when you can already predict that it is meaningless. Yet I find faith in knowing that the reason why some people are the way they are, is not by their own choice, it is just from unfortunate events in their lives that shaped them this way. They can never change unless somebody shows them and gives them a chance to be a better person. For me being able to offer that chance is an reward in itself.

By: s

Mon, 26 May 2014 05:28:21 +0000

I used to get depressed reading comments on line under various topics or news.

most people have no understanding or gray area in their takes. i can read written words and read the person behind it. most people can only relate to anything based on their own personal experiences. it’s useless to debate with them either because if they don’t see, they don’t. we can’t force a horse to drink water.

now that i am older, i am more forgiving. when i was in my 20’s and 30’s i hardly gave people chances. i didn’t believe that they “would” change (for the better). Now i have a lot more hope. It’s not a hope that everyone will get better but a hope that some will get better, with the acceptance of most will remain the same.

And no matter what you do, don’t engage in a debate with people who are not the same, mostly Sensing type, the here and now type. We’ll never see eye to eye. Engage with them in any shape or form only drive INFJs nuts.

Like I put in a prior reply, life will get better as we INFJs get older. We will truly become wise seers, using our strong intuitive nature and understanding of all shades of grey to help others to be more rounded human beings.

By: Alex

Alex — Tue, 11 Feb 2014 04:32:12 +0000

Thanks Kara for sharing! I noticed that as an introverted feeler I can often find sad and depressing things also equally beautiful. I guess it somehow has an appeal ant the same time, maybe hence we go through this state more often then others.

By: Kara

Kara — Mon, 20 Jan 2014 17:39:44 +0000

Wow, this hits it on the head for me. There are days as an INFJ that I wake up and as the day goes on I think, why do I feel depressed or heavy or a sense of doom? As a counselor I tend to shy away from using the word depressed but I mean it in a sense of depressed feeling, not a chronic depression as a diagnosis for me personally. It is because of this recognition of how the world really is and a feeling of how do I fit in and can I really make a difference? I also some days just want to work from behind my computer at home and hide away. I get strange sensations of an out of body like feeling or a sense of fear I guess? Anxiety too over something looming “out there”. That’s the best way I can describe it. It’s hard to be us but at the same time maybe kinda cool. Thanks for your posts.

By: Alex

Alex — Sat, 05 Oct 2013 22:09:27 +0000

I totally agree. Some days I often feel bitter about things that affects me or people I care about in a negative way, which I have no control over what so ever. Especially if it is something that someone else can prevent but choose not to. I can get very worked up concerning such people issues and it affects my mood and caring nature. I can become angry, irritated and complaining. I guess I forget that people can simply not see it as clear as I do, and I have to remember to remind myself of this instead of growing negative feelings towards people for the way they act.