Comments on: INFJ Psychic Intuition: Reading the Minds of Other People

By: Alex

Alex — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 03:18:17 +0000

Hi S,
Thanks a lot for your input, sorry it took me so long to reply, I’ve been out traveling. I really value hearing other INFJs experiences. I totally agree friendships are extremely important, it is a shame it is so hard to find good ones though. I try to take it for what it is and not demand to much of others. What I do long for though is somebody to share my diverse interests with which has always been difficult to find even since I was a kid. Your always twice your age on a mental level which makes it hard to find people of substance among your peers.

By: s

Mon, 26 May 2014 05:16:59 +0000

Hi Alex,
just found your blog.

I never quite understood my intuition until recently (will be 50 soon). It’s hard to analyze intuition about people. You are right about tiring, after gathering a huge amount of data subconsciously.

Looking at the positive side, I have never got involved with “bad” people because I intuitively knew to stay away quietly or keep a safe social distance.

Socially I always feel not myself but I put on an act and actually fool people into thinking I was an extrovert. This was done at a great deal of spending my own energy. On the other hand, I love observing strangers if I don’t need to socialize. I make up stories in my head about people based on what I read from them. It’s great fun and gives me energy.

You will get wise as you get older, if you never stop strengthening weaknesses and managing strengthes in a more productive way. I was terribly bipolar and always chiding self for being weird in my 20’s and 30’s. My 40’s was a period of tremendous growth. Each year I learned something about me.

You will, too. Have hope and hold on to the few friends you are close to. Close friendship is such a vital part of INFJ’s life. I cherish my close friends more than anything in the world. They get me and they appreciate me for who I am.

As for dating. It’s touchy because how selective we are and how good we are at terminating a bad relationship (even if it puts us in a funk). All we can do is to pray for a good match. Just because we are good people doesn’t mean that we will be blessed with a great life long partner. To take a close friendship into the romantic level is so rare for us INFJs.

By: Alex

Alex — Sun, 18 May 2014 00:54:48 +0000

I agree. I’m very good at understanding what makes people tick and figure out their intentions. So good that to a degree I find it hard to make lasting friendships that matter to me because I value it more then most people and when it is not mutual I lose interest. I guess what it boils down to is that I care a lot about other people and I want them to do that as well or they are not worth my time.

By: Roger

Roger — Mon, 28 Apr 2014 14:34:54 +0000

I have never liked crowds. I do anything I can get out of them. Even though I know deep down they are not all focused on me, I feel like they are all watching me. Over the years I wondered why I sit and stare at people. I felt like I size everyone up. Not until I hit about 42 did things start to heat up.
I could look at people and feel things.

This only happens to very close people whom I love. But it’s like I can tell people and their intentions of those not too close.

My marriage has suffered from me over the years. Kinda hard to know your Partner better then you.